Posted by Renee Schmidt

If you’re looking for simple ways to save yourself and keep your life in order without messing it up, LifeHack.org compiled a list of 10 Simple rules to adhere to.  Here are my favorite 3:

  1. Stop being concerned what the rest of the world says about you.   Concerning yourself with the commentary of others is reactive!  You shouldn’t let the outside, control how you’re feeling within; that leaves you in state of constant reliance on others for a good mood; it’s tragic!  ”Nasty people can’t make you mad. Nice people can’t make you happy. Events or people are simply events or people. They can’t make you anything. You have to do that for yourself.” Whatever emotions arise in you as a result of external events, they’re powerless until you pick them up and decide to act on them. Besides, most people are far too busy thinking about themselves (and worrying what you are are thinking and saying about them), to be concerned with you.
  2. Ease up on the internal life commentary. “If you want to be happy, stop telling yourself you’re miserable. People are always telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others feel about them, what this or that event really means.”  You must recognize that what you perceive is only the way the world occurs to you. “Most of it’s imagination. The rest is equal parts lies and misunderstandings. You have only the most limited understanding of what others feel about you.”  Ask 100 people to watch the same movie and narrate, and they will each describe something different. “You have no way of knowing what this or that event really means. Whatever you tell yourself will be make-believe.”
  3. Don’t be concerned that your life and career aren’t working out the way you planned. “The closer you stick to any plan, the quicker you’ll go wrong. The world changes constantly. However carefully you analyzed the situation when you made the plan, if it’s more than a few days old, things will already be different. After a month, they’ll be very different. After a year, virtually nothing will be the same as it was when you started. Planning is only useful as a discipline to force people to think carefully about what they know and what they don’t. Once you start, throw the plan away and keep your eyes on reality.”  Our goals are not the goal!  It’s all in the journey.

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  • Gayle

    I totally agree with this, especially the second bullet.  Think about it.  If we had people in our lives who talked to us the way we sometimes talk to ourselves, we’d probably stop spending time with them.